SKILLS UPGRADE FOR THOSE, WHO HAS IT URGENT
During coaching sessions with me, you will get the result equivalent to a 6-month leadership course. Just write me a private message and we will create a program to suit your needs. Learn in 8 weeks how to change your story & create a life you love:
8 online sessions + 1 follow up after graduation. Intensive homework and best in class materials. I’m strict, unfulfilled deliveries will be fined. It will be difficult, but this coaching sessions made previous mentees successful.
1 hour coaching session will be tailor-made for your needs. During the first get-to-know session we will set a mentoring goal and develop an action tracker plan with additional readings, video materials to get you upgraded during the following 8 weeks. Below is a list of topics, which were highly valued by the previous mentees:
Achieve Any Goal Tips for Measuring the Success The Art of Giving Feedback Getting Time Under Control Organize Your Working Routine Stakeholder Management Prioritization of Yourself Communication is the Key Successful Career Development Positive Psychology Leading in Crisis Emotional Intelligence
Why not to read a book?
Books, as a rule, sell the process – not the result. If you read multiple books on self motivation at a comfortable pace, with a small amount of dedication, then you will need 2-3 years to upgrade.
Why not to google?
When you google topics, that are interesting to you, you do not have a follow up to implement the learned techniques. You forget the next day, or even an hour, what you learned about.
People have been coaching for thousands of years, but it is only in recent decades that coaching has taken shape as a separate scientific discipline. I’m an associate certified coach from International Coach Federation, and will give you various tasks and exercises that will help you to identify the factors that limit the realization of your potential. You will be able to find solutions that will help you to start living the life you want and truly love. I made modules as a practical guide with a minimum of theory (you will receive link, where you can read more). My aim is that you become the best version of yourself in fast and efficient way.
Contact me & let’s get started!
Traveled to 60+ countries, speak 5 languages fluently, self-made – I can share a thing or two on how to become successful 🙂
Very truly yours,
ILona B. Schukina
Questions for the preliminary interview: What sparked your interest in coaching? What are the 3 biggest changes you want to make in your life in the next 3-5 years? What 3 goals do you want to achieve in the next 3-6 months? … What goals do you think coaching can help you achieve? If anything was possible, what would you want? Name 3 things that you are good at. What is the biggest problem in your life that you had to deal with? What changes have you faced in the last couple of years? What helped you get through these changes? What is the most important thing in life for you? Why? Who are the most important people to you? What do they give you? Is your life your choice? If not, who chooses for you? On a scale of 1 to 10, how happy are you at the moment? •, What makes you happy? On a scale of 1 to 10, how motivated are you in your personal / professional life? What motivates you? On a scale of 1-10, how much stress is in your life? What is causing this stress? What are 5 things you have to put up with at the moment? What would you like a coach to do to help you achieve your goals How will you know that the results of the coaching process are of value to you? What approaches motivate / demotivate you? What would you like your coach to do during the coaching sessions: (rate each item on a 10-point scale (1 is not important and 10 is very important): 1. I have a clear understanding of my goals. 2. My understanding of what is important to me / what motivates me. 3. Studying and understanding what is holding me back tight to the goal. 4. Understanding who I am, my strengths, abilities and potential. 5. Providing support. 6. Help in setting goals. 7. Help in understanding what and how to do. 8. Challenge difficult questions. 9. Providing honest and direct feedback. 10. Take responsibility for achieving your own goals. A purpose statement simply captures an overriding theme already present in your life. It puts down in words the true work you are here to do: the cause you will pursue, the wound in individuals or society you will seek to heal, the problem you will devote your life to fixing. It states the highest, purest, most others-oriented aim of your life. There are 2 formats, that you can use for purpose creation: 1. I am the/a___________________(symbol) so that people _________________(action phrase). Examples: I am a lens who helps people see what’s most important. I am a microphone so that other people (especially the poor and elderly) can be heard. I am a lighthouse who guides people to greater financial security and freedom. My purpose statement in this format is: I am a link between people and what they need to find and fulfill the unique purpose for their lives. 2. My purpose is to _____________________________________. My purpose statement in this format is: My purpose is to help people find and fulfill their unique life purpose. Sometimes, the desire for change looks simple: you want to get from point A to point B. What could be simpler? For example, you want to lose weight, ‘move up the career ladder, or build a personal relationship. The difficulty lies in the fact that even when you are motivated, there may be obstacles and barriers to the realization of the goal. ‘ In addition to this, sometimes you may not be aware that there are forces that could help you to move towards your goal. Field theory, or force field analysis (Rogce MeM Apatus), offers a way to take a comprehensive look at all the forces that support and impede change. Force Field Analysis, ‘developed by Kurt Lewin in the 1940s, is based on an understanding of the need to consider all the factors that influence change. These factors can be both positive, supporting changes, and negative, restraining them. Force field analysis is a simple yet effective tool that helps you to become aware of the driving and constraining forces that influence life’s change. Process Step 1. Define a goal. What is this goal or task? You need to be very specific. Examples of formulations: improve your fitness by losing 5 kg; increase your productivity by 10%; save money for a trip to Hawaii. Step 2. Determine the driving forces. List all the factors that affect your ability to successfully achieve your goal. Determine the “share” of each factor by assigning a value from 1 to 10, where 1 is the least influence and 10 is the greatest influence. Step 3. Determine the restraining forces. List all the factors that prevent you from successfully achieving your goal. Determine the “specific weight” of each factor by assigning a value from 1 to 10, where 1 is the least influence and 10 is the greatest influence. Step 4. Consider the result. What supporting factors will be most helpful in achieving the goal? What are the easiest constraints to overcome? Goals are a part of every aspect of our life, including our relationships with other people, attitude to time, what we want to achieve in life, professional realization. Without setting goals, life becomes a chain of random events that we have no control over. SMART goal setting allows you to structure the your Goals. Instead of unclear goals, this tool offers clear criteria for setting goals with parameters for achieving them and clear deadlines. Coaching is a goal-oriented approach, so helping you to understand your goals is an important part of both the coaching process and each session. And we begin almost any session by defining its purpose. From the point of view of the researcher of management efficiency Peter Drucker, an effective manager or entrepreneur very clearly defines important (at the same time achievable) goal criteria and purposefully seeks to implement them. The skill of purposeful thinking makes you first decide on the goal, and only then look for its embodiment, despite the difficulties of its implementation. Most people adjust their goals on the fly, adjusting them to the available opportunities, and therefore not so successful. Letters SMART mean the following: Specefic – specific Measurable – measurable Achievable – achievable and consistent with client resources Relevant – significant Timely – time-limited The goal is what you want to achieve. The questions posted below will help you understand the goal and when it will be achieved. What’s your long term goal? What’s your short term goal? What do you really want? What benefits will you and others get if you | will you reach your goal? What should be the result for you and / or others to get what you want? How long will it take you to achieve your goal? What are the key events that will help you understand that you are on the right track? If everything went the best way, what would be the best result? What does success look like to you? How will you know you have achieved your goal? What’s your budget? How realistic is it? By what parameters will you measure your goal? How can your previous experience help you achieve your goal? What commitments are you willing to make to achieve your goal? A foresight session is your reflection on the future. What are the trends, where is your family, organization, country, all of humanity moving? My experience shows that when we are living and working in our own conditions, comparing the facts, can perfectly predict the options for the development of certain events. All that is needed as the courage to admit the obvious to oneself. For example, if a foresight session considers a career development strategy, then it is necessary to answer the following questions: – Will you need the skills you learn in the future? – Will you be satisfied with the learned skills in the future? – What new may you want in the near and distant future in order to meet expectations from your current or future employer? After answering these questions, I suggest that you identify pessimistic and optimistic scenarios for the development of events, as well as a number of intermediate ones. Then rank all the scenarios in terms of the likelihood of development and use the ideas obtained to determine the further strategy. The skill of strategic thinking is one of the most important skills that enable a person to achieve success. And it doesn’t matter in what area this success is, be it business, family relationships or spiritual development. If a person in one context or another achieves satisfaction or happiness for a long time, this is what can be called success. Very often, before a strategic session, it is advisable to conduct a Foresight session (technique 7), so that you build your future in accordance with expectations of what can happen to the reality in which you live. G-GROW 1. – How would you like to see your life in 10 or 20 years? – Why is this important to you? Why do you need these achievements? – What other options for a satisfying future can you envision? – Please close your eyes, imagine yourself in the desired future in 10 years. What do you see around you? Where do you live? What do you do? R-GROW 2. – Write about your work experience, education. – Write down your hobbies. – Describe your dreams and fantasies. Who would you like to be and who would you like to work with? Where do you have talent or ability? – What else would you like to try in life? What talents are noticed by your colleagues or bosses? What are your strengths? O-GROW 3. Transformation of each of the options of point 2 into strategic long-term development directions. Here we list the areas, that you identified as possible areas of development. We write each area on a sticker and glue the sticker on the table or on the floor. Also, all this is recorded on paper. – Analyze each direction. Advantages and disadvantages. – Assess the risks, pros and cons of each direction. – Remove some areas from the development plan. W-GROW 4. Next steps. Commitment and motivation through the criterion of value. – What are you going to take in the very near future to implement your strategic plan? – Which values will help you to get motivated to do something without delay? Even the ancient Romans argued that habit is second nature (Consuetudo est altera natura). It is because of our daily habits, we gain new knowledge and skills, or we burn our lives senselessly. This behavioral technique does not dig deep, but you need to start somewhere. 1. Determine the goal in time in the form of rejection of old behavior and the formation of a new one. Here we specify what kind of behavior, from what moment and for how long you would like to refuse or what new behavior you would like to introduce. Many of us, when we want to change something in our life, constantly put it off for later. For example, today I will rest, and tomorrow I will start learning Spanish or quit smoking. But tomorrow everything repeats itself. 2. Search for negative and positive motivators. Think of two images and two strategic paths through life, when one image has a habit, and the other is free from it. It is important that you find within yourself a truly motivating value, for which you want to change your life. These values should be both positive and negative (what will happen if you do not change). 3. Analyse the habit: appearance, development, when it disappeared, and why it appeared again. What helps and what hinders? What circumstances led to the fact that everything was decided by itself. When, where, with whom does the habit manifest itself? For example, a person always smokes in the same places, similar situations increase smoking or help to cope with it. 4. Find various opportunities to replace behavior. Thinking through the behavior in every situation where the habit took place. Here it is necessary that you find habit substitutes suitable for yourself, that you determine everything on your own. It should be remembered that if some factors previously led to a breakdown, then these factors will necessarily repeat in the future, and you must develop a plan in advance of what you will do in a given situation. Upon completion, I ask you to write a written commitment with the following content: “I undertake from May 24 to June 24, once a day for at least 45 minutes, independently study Spanish, regardless of my condition and circumstances.” Very often, the goal for coaching is to develop a certain skill or to prepare for specific negotiations or presentations. The task in this case is to simulate the situation for which you want to prepare, determine the stages of the process (for example, form the stages of certain negotiations or a sales funnel), prepare for each of those stages, help to formulate all scripts and arguments, rehearse everything the required number of times and ask someone for a feedback. Technique steps: 1. Set a behavioral goal. 2. Demonstrate the current skill level in a simulated situation: clarify characteristics of the people with whom you will interact, show how you would behave and wtite down your thoughts, feelings, emotions. 3. Think over the process (for example, stages of communication) and content (scripts, phrases and arguments). Review you it, if possible collect the feedback and think through every key phrase, every argument. 4. Consider if there are any opportunities for improvement. Perhaps you will focus not only on the stages and content of the process, but also on your additional skills to enter the desired emotional state (i.e. project a “relaxed” mood, while taking about a challenging issues). 5. Model the situation again. Get the feedback from listeners. Write down what went well and what else shall be improved. 6. Repeat point 5 as many times as necessary: until you feel confident enough and believe you will succeed. Model SCORE can serve, as well as GROW, a general model of interaction. In the process of the model SCORE, we first focus on the your situation, reality and symptoms. And after clarifying them, you formulate a goal. Model SCORE is used, then you have difficulty saying what you want, and you are resistant to communicating your goals. Symptoms – manifestations of a problem, deterrent factors, a problem state. Causes – hidden elements responsible for the origin and maintenance of the problem; are usually in the past. Outcomes – the goal or desired state. Resources – the elements of experience with which you can achieve the desired change. Effects – the long-term environmental consequences of achieving a desired goal, affecting us or our environment. Stages (by R. Dilts): 1. Definition of the present state – the symptoms of the problem. Tell us what you are doing now. What difficulties do you face in the process of doing your job? 2. Determination of the reasons. What do you think is the cause of these difficulties? Why haven’t these obstacles disappeared by themselves? 3. Determination of the result of changes, the desired state. Can you formulate your goal using SMART technique? 4. Determination of the effects and consequences of achieving the desired state. When do you think you will be able to achieve your goal? What will this lead to in the future? 5. Determination of the resources necessary to achieve the result by studying the structure of others, successful, situations in the past in oneself, in other people, in other contexts, etc. 6. Determination of the resources that contribute to the transformation of the reasons restraining from changing, changing the nature of their influence. The model “LIGHT” is used in cases where the goal of the session is to understand your goal and the techniques described in the SMART model section do not bring this understanding: Language – speech, value markers Ideas – ideas and interventions Goal – strategic goals and vision Harmony- your inner emotional response Time – time based action plan Let us agree on the purpose of the session to determine the direction of your life. Write down about your interests and hobbies. What do you do in your free time? Are there any things that you are proud of? How important is it to you? If this situation is not resolved, where will this lead you in life? At this point, you shall define ‘what you want and have a positive emotional response to that saying. How will you achieve your goal? What steps do you need to take?